There is a German saying that roughly translates to “Those who ask are in the lead”1 that nails it pretty well for me. Now, I don’t mean to say, the one who asks is the boss (even though the saying is often interpreted like that). To me it rather means: the one with the questions acts as a guide through the dialogue that hopefully ensues. To navigate toward a constructive, fruitful conversation, the mindset you start out with is essential. Having the right questions not only helps you get into that mindset, it actually also helps triggering it in your counterpart.
Wer fragt, der führt ↩